Tuesday, April 7, 2009

A woman’s perspective

What woman wants? Well that’s a difficult question as you all know. And I am in no way attempting to answer this here. Mostly guys wonder what will be the ways to win a woman. There have been many things written as a guide for that, a list of all do’s and don’ts. Well this is my version of it. This may stand true for most cases and may not for many others. You know women are so different. But yeah well this is at least my side of the story.

The first thing is intelligence. Yes woman are crazy for guys who are intelligent. So guys buckle up. If you have your facts and logic in place, women will be all around you.

The second thing is sophistication. Yes woman do get attracted to sexy velvet English or neutral accents and impeccable styles, dressing and behavior. So if you burp in public or do belching while eating or talk in a vernacular accent or smell like shit or wear crumpled clothing or have unkempt hair, then I am sorry to say you have a long way to go to find a woman.

The third thing is confidence. This can really help to sweep her off her feet. So approach a woman with your chin up, shoulders straight, poised posture, mature voice and I bet she will be all yours. And if you are fumbling, stammering or wavering then my friend better luck next time.

The fourth thing is give attention to her. So if she is looking pretty then don’t hesitate in giving a genuine compliment. But please don’t resort to fake appreciations as all women may not be so dumb to understand it.

Well I guess at this point you might be thinking that I am talking about all external or physical factors. Actually these factors are important to at least get into proximity of a woman. If you don’t have them, believe me how good you are as a person, it will be difficult for you to make her yours. But to make a woman fall in love with you, you need much more then these external/physical things. Let’s try and explore that.

You should be caring. Yes if you love her it should show in the way you care for her. By caring it doesn’t mean that you are hovering around her all the time. It means that your woman feels that if anything goes wrong you will be there to protect her. If she is trapped in some problem you will be there to rescue her. It’s not necessary that you are there in her good times but you should be/must be there in her bad times.

You should not try to change her. Yes this is a big no no. Woman of today knows what is right and what is wrong. So don’t try to judge her doings. She may find it as an intrusion to her personality. But that doesn’t mean that you don’t correct her if she is on a wrong side. Talk to her, explain your view point and try to bring out the problems with her actions but always leave the final decision to her. Doing this will make her realize that she was wrong. And she will be thankful to you in guiding her but not commanding her.

I would stop here. I won’t again say the things like you should understand her and above all love her with all you have. Anyways if you have chosen a woman to be your companion for the rest of you life, loving her will come naturally.

P.S. – Not all women may have the same perspective as mine. So observe her carefully first and then only try all these. And I don’t take any guarantee for any of the things suggested above if tried on any other women apart from me :-).

6 comments:

  1. Voila! Did I find Alladin's lamp... :-)

    Well This is not only informative, its artistic as well. Just one point I'd like to augment... Can you really guarantee that these will work on you? Because as far as I have understood it... (and I may be grossly incorrect)... that Attraction (or Love for that matter) Isn't A Choice!

    Someday you mite fall for a nerd who doesn't talk sense, appears shabby or cares less... And that's where the trouble starts. Love IS indeed beautiful! :-p

    Anyways! nice pointers for every male soul... :-)

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  2. Seems that this was written only for Ujju ;) or i shud say specially for u ujju haha...
    gd gd.... gd work!!

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  3. yes...that is why love is so unpredictable. its something which cannot be planned and executed. but yeah if someone is really trying to plan it...then these points may help :-)

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  4. ha ha ha ha ha...i am sorry but could not stop myself from laughing out loud.....actually tears rolling down now....this is hilarious, specially coz its coming from you....this is definitely useful for guys to woo GIRLS who are absolutely unlike the female who has written this piece.....ha ha ha ha ha...will write more once i am done laughing my lungs out!!!!!

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  5. "Yes woman do get attracted to sexy velvet English or neutral accents and impeccable styles, dressing and behavior."
    I wonder women die over Hugh Grant then.... That Moron!

    "And if you are fumbling, stammering or wavering then my friend better luck next time."
    Hrithik did get Preity in 'Koi Mil gaya' & Tom Hanks got Jenny in 'Forrest Gump.... From which angle do those look confident to you :P

    Ujjwal...
    I read somewhere in your blog that one should publicize one's blog... Are you doing the same for Pallavi :P
    Do you charge any fees for that?

    And Jai... You can stop laughing now... Too much of it is injurious to health!

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  6. as i said there are exceptions everywhere and so @ Rajesh - the examples that u gave can be conveniently termed as exceptions.

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