Laws of attraction - The story of Venusians

So it’s the time for gals’ side story. Gals are supposedly more delicate creatures and their ways of expressions are very subtle and mostly consists of gestures, smiles, body language etc. So when guys believe in blurting out all what’s inside them, gals prefer a silent mode. Also when guys’ actions and behavior is pretty indicative of what is going inside them; it is very difficult to predict what is going on in gals’ mind or heart.

They care and care a lot. They care for their families, friends, colleagues, everyone. And so if they are attracted to a guy, they go an extra mile in this aspect. “Ohh!! You have got fever. You take rest and I’ll get you dinner.” “You are still in office. If there is some work related issue, please tell me. I am here to help.” These sweet gestures are enough to sweep anyone of their feet. A word of caution here – these feelings can be for good friends also and not necessarily for a person they are attracted to. So take some time before jumping into any conclusion.

Body language is more of a reliable indicator of attraction. Mostly gals won’t get physical to all the guys. This includes patting on someone’s back, holding hands, sleeping on your shoulder, caressing your hair, tickling you etc. So if they are doing all this to you, then there is certainly some spark between the two of you.

They make their presence felt. So if a gal likes you, she will be all around you. Even if you are separated from a distance, your mobile will keep beeping in regular intervals with her tiny texts. At the end of the day she will discuss all little little things that happened. And of course your mailbox will be flooded with her cute, pink forwards like flowers, teddies, romantic quotations etc.

They will dress to please you. Their wardrobe will suddenly be updated with all yours favorite colors and patterns. They will wear a smile on their lips and a twinkle in their eyes all day with just a single compliment from you.

They will buy you presents which will include all things you always wished to have. They will try to make all your events like parties, outings special and successful.

They will be vulnerable when you are around. They will discuss all their problems with you and will take all your suggestions seriously and will act on those.

Well if you are lucky enough, they will actually tell you what they feel about you. And if they don’t say, then you may have to guess from all the above indications. But again do remember the caution that I have mentioned. They may just be thinking of you as a good friend. But be optimistic guys, friendship leads to love.

This ‘Dil ka Dard’ can victimize anyone anytime. And when it hurts it shows. And when it hurts pleasantly it shows all the more. When next time you fall in the clutch of this highly contagious syndrome, do spread it :).

Laws of Attraction

When you are attracted to someone it shows. Your whole body starts to speak out load about your latest heartache (please don’t read it as heart attack; I am just talking about ‘Dil ka Dard’). Your actions, body language, eyes, words all indicate your recent state of mind, heart, body and well ya other stuff. You unknowingly start doing things which at one point of time were so cliché. Lets explore some of the typical things that guys do when ya they have such a ‘Dil ka Dard’.

If they don’t know the girl very well, the first thing they will try to find out if she is single or not. “Going early today? Plans with boyfriend?”, “Does your boyfriend calls you by that name”, “I just loved your dress but I am afraid that my compliment will offend your boyfriend”, “Why are all pretty girls engaged? And since you are so damn pretty I need not to say more”, “I am going to a disc, will you accompany me? Of course if your boyfriend permits”. To all these questions mostly she will reply whether she has a boyfriend or not. So, the first step is successfully concluded. If she is single, bingo; life is a rainbow. If she is not, a booze party with the all ‘guy gang’ (oh please ignore the word party). The real agenda of the meet is Swearing and cursing the whole world which essentially starts with the entire female population but still hesitating to include the subject of interest (the degree of swearing increases exponentially with the amount of pegs went inside). Next day they puke out all the emotions and heartaches and are ready for next one.

In a group of ten when everybody is talking sense and she is uttering crap, all their attention is still towards her. “That’s what my lady will say”, “OMG! We think so alike”, “Ahhh! You just stole my words”, “You are so bright”, “I just love the way you say things” – these will be their common reactions.

Her every email is the most valued possession in their inbox. Replying to her “Good Morning” or “Cartoon of the day” email is more important then replying to “Issues related to your code” mail.

She will always look pretty even if she is wearing a dress which resembles some country’s flag. Fluorescent green and pink become their favorite colors when it comes to dressing to impress her.

Her every joke is funny. Even though her sense of humor sucks it’s their responsibility to laugh their heart out at her jokes.

For them she is the most vulnerable creature in this planet. If they slightly, unknowingly and mistakenly smacked her hand, they will caress it for hours and will apologize “you can’t count it” number of times for it.

Her sms inbox will be full of cute messages, romantic poems and emotional shayaris. Even if they send to other guys worst swearing and non veg messages, for her they expressions are always cute and cuddly.

They are her self appointed body guards. So dare if some other guy approaches her, they are going to take a good case of him. Waiting for her in office when she is working late, dropping her home at night, picking her up in the morning, tolerating all her tantrums and mood swings and eccentricities will be their self assigned duties.

This is just few of the symptoms. Of course some may differ from person to person. So if you don’t booze, you can cure the ache by listening to sad romantic songs, saying senti lines to your friends till they slap and kick your ass and ask you to stop the nautanki or locking yourself inside the room and coming out realizing that yeah no one cares a damn on such eccentricities. For some attraction is just day dreaming about the girl and enjoying the fact that all your friends call her ‘Bhabhiji’ but no intentions of actually going to her and proposing her. Well any which ways this temporary/permanent ‘Dil ka Dard’ is an experience in itself.

So if till now you are spared for heart aches, get a life dudes!

P.S. – This was guys’ side story. Coming soon is gals’ side story.

Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna

It was going on and on. They both were somehow waiting for it to reach somewhere, some conclusion, some ending. Like a sailor struggling to reach to the shore. Every time when they met to discuss about the future of their relationship they were somehow lost in each other’s eyes. Those amazing eyes which at one point of life were the most precious treasures in the whole world. But this time they finally decided to talk once and for all to finish the miseries they both were going through.

He: I think we can still make it work. I just need some time.

She: I am ready to wait. You tell me that you will be mine after ten years then I will wait for ten years without a single word of whine. Can you assure me that?

He: Please understand that it is difficult for me to give any such commitment of time frame. All I can say is that I am trying.

She: I know that you are trying. I have been hearing this for long time and I always trusted you. But somehow you do not understand my situation. I can’t sleep in night thinking about our future, I can’t concentrate on work, I can’t enjoy anything, all I just keep thinking about is what next shock is waiting for me. I remember the lovely days I spent with you; I remember the ugly nights I have spent crying without you, I think this all is making me insane. I never thought that this relationship will give me so much pain.

He: I wish I could do something to lessen your pain. But somehow things are going out of my hand. I had always hoped that I will keep you happy but seems I am not able to that anymore. Please tell me what can I do to get you back to your ‘happy go lucky’ self?

She: If you really want to do something for me then just let me go. I had some great memories of the past with you and I atleast don’t want them to fade away because of our miserable present.

He: You know I can’t do that.

She: Life is not always the way you want it. You can’t promise to be with me and you don’t want me to go. I can’t live in such dilemma. Now since you are not able to decide its time for me to say ‘Good Bye’. I loved you and I love you but I will not always love you.

It was not easy for her to say all that. But may be he will never understand. She did cry her eyes out for so many days. But may be he will never understand. He did try to resolve things for good. But may be she will never understand.

Blind Date - The Love Story - Part 1

She was nervous. It was the first time she was meeting him. Thoughts were surrounding her everywhere. “Will he like me or not? Are we the ones for each other? Does he love me?”

They first bumped into each other some eight months back. She was in final year of Law College and her brother from US has got her a new cellphone. Her curiosity with the new gadget somehow dialed a number and it was him at the other side. It was a normal two second wrong number chit chat. But there was some force somewhere acting in bringing these two souls together and so he called her back again. It was awkward for her to get a call from complete stranger whom number she dialed by mistake. And the first thought was that this guy is some bad, vagabond guy groping for a girl. But he sounded nice and she couldn’t refuse that she felt attracted to his voice. And so after initial awkwardness they started talking. And slowly he became a part of her life. He was the one voice she wished to listen before going to sleep. He was the one voice she wished to hear first in the morning. They used to talk about their likes, dislikes, dreams, aspirations, friends, family, work, society and almost everything. Her friends already started teasing her on her new found lover. Life was like a fairy tale.

He was an architect and was working with one US multinational firm. Till this time they were more then happy and contented talking to each other and so they never thought of an actual meeting. But one fine day he got to know that he will have to travel to California for some project in 2 weeks time. That was the time he asked her to meet him. She always wanted to meet him and so without a second thought she agreed. But soon the thought of meeting him made her miserable. The reason was that she was not good looking. She was little fat had wheatish complexion, rough hair and a slight limp in her right leg. He on the other hand was gorgeous. Six feet tall, nice built and fair. Though they have exchanged their pictures earlier but she was always in doubt that he will not love her after they meet. But anyways whatever will be the outcome, they were destined to meet.

A knock on the door brought her back from the trance. Her friends came to see her and boost her for the big day. “Life is so tough without friends” thought she. Somebody got her a new dress, somebody a new footwear and some were just busy putting makeup on her not so beautiful face, in the hope that this will make her shine on her big day. They all unanimously decided that a white Indian dress will be the best for the occasion. She always looked nice in whites, atleast people always said so. But she was not bothered about all that. Her heart was in a bigger trauma. So many memories from the past, so many doubts about the future. Her feeling of joy to meet him was crushed by so many second thoughts.

She was alone again. All her friends left. Her thoughts were running faster then time and tears were rolling down her eyes. The very idea of he leaving her was killing her. She cannot take it anymore and then almost impulsively reached out for the phone.

“Hello” he said and without waiting for her to say anything he continued, “I am so excited about today evening. I can’t express my feelings in words. I...”

“Listen” she interrupted in between. “There is something I want to say”, her voice trembled, her face was red and tears well rolling continuously. “I don’t think it’s a good idea for us to meet. I really like you but I don’t see my future with you. This may sound rough but I can’t live with this feeling anymore. I think we should just be apart and don’t try to see and talk to each other now”. She finally said those words, the words that bruised her heart so deep that the pain will never heal, the words that stabbed her soul, the words that shook her existence, the words that took away all her joy and love from her life.

He was dumbstruck. It was like someone hammered him so hard that his whole body was numb. “Who says that guys don’t cry” he thought wiping his tears. Before he could even think of anything to say she kept the phone down.

There was silence, dead silence. “Is it the same feeling that one gets just seconds before dying?” Both were thinking that. She was happy for him as she thought that he deserved someone much better then her. He was blank, thoughtless, vulnerable and unable to think what went wrong. She kept staring at the phone, a some part of her still felt that he will call her back, but he didn’t. “And why would he, I did so wrong to him. I don’t deserve him and his love. I don’t deserve anything in life.” thought she. And after crying profusely for sometime she slept.

All love stories don’t always have a happy ending. I don’t know about this one until I write the second part…

Long Distance Relationship

“Absence is to love as wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small and kindles the great”

One kind of relationship which no one willingly wants to go for is a long distance. The very idea of not being able to hold your beloved’s hand, look into each other’s eyes or kiss each other; makes it miserable. There are times when you are low, there are times when you are high and in all those times you need your love close to you. So basically a long distance relationship is not a great idea. But the fact is some of the times it’s not really in our hands to decide what kind of relationship we want to be in. There may be other commitments (both professional and personal) which may prevent one from being physically close to their love for some time. And so instead of complaining about this one should look at the bright side of this kind of relationship.

A long distance relationship makes you expressive verbally. You cannot touch and see each other, than words are the only ways to convey feelings.

A long distance relationship makes you emotionally strong and stable. You try to resolve problems on your own instead of just relying on your partner.

A long distance relationship brings out the actual depth of a relation. As now the bonding between two people is beyond physical desires. As it is rightly said, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

A long distance relationship makes you realize the importance of your love. When you miss your love in all little little things, you come to know how much they are an integral part of your life.

A long distance relationship gives you a chance to give time to people who are also important in your life like your friends.

Ofcourse there is nothing greater than being with your love all the time. But a long distance relationship increases the ecstasy of meeting your love. And for relief of every love bird there, don’t forget that in today’s time your love is just a phone call away or just a few hours of flight away :-).