How to say "Those three words"

Falling in love is easy, expressing it is tough.

I have seen lots of people around me struggling to say “I love You”. Somehow your head starts spinning, your hands and feet get numb, your vision turns blurred, your tongue is tied and the glory of the moment passes and leaves you thinking why I couldn’t say it. I may have exaggerated this a bit but I am sure that some people will agree with me.

Expressing love is not easy because when we think of doing that we get encompassed by many thoughts. “What if he/she says No”, “I don’t want to loose his/her friendship”, “Is this the right time to say it”, “Am I ready for this commitment”, “I will not be a laughing stock of all the people”, “When is the right moment to take this step”, “How will life will be after this proposition”.

I feel that few things should be thought of well before you think of expressing love. And here I am talking about serious love and commitment and not teenage flings. You should be sure that you are ready for a commitment and what will be the future of your relationship. One friend of mine has once said “I love you” to me. My very next question was “If I say I love u too, what does this mean to you. What have you decided for a relationship that we may form after my yes? What will be the future of it?” He had no answer and so clearly my answer was NO to him. So first answer these questions to yourself and when your are sure about things then its time to take the next step. Please don’t assume that if you have answers to all these questions you will surely get a Yes. But if you don’t have answers to all these questions you will surely get a NO.

Now you are ready to finally say it. Time and place does matter. Don’t choose a very crowded place or a rush hour. Try to go to his/her favorite place but don’t over prepare the place and surroundings. You don’t have to become a poet or a writer to say this. Most beautiful things are expressed in most simple words. You should have answers regarding the future of the relationship and how have you decided to go about things. You should be able to make the other person realize that how important he/she is for you and what positive impact they have in your life. But the most important thing is to keep an open mind. He/She may be a great friend of yours but it’s not necessary for them to reciprocate your feelings. And you can be great friends even after his/her NO.

Saying is always better then keeping it in heart and then regretting later that you should have said that. Go ahead and say it and if your feelings are true sooner or later you will be showered with love.