Thursday, May 28, 2009

Long Distance Relationship

“Absence is to love as wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small and kindles the great”

One kind of relationship which no one willingly wants to go for is a long distance. The very idea of not being able to hold your beloved’s hand, look into each other’s eyes or kiss each other; makes it miserable. There are times when you are low, there are times when you are high and in all those times you need your love close to you. So basically a long distance relationship is not a great idea. But the fact is some of the times it’s not really in our hands to decide what kind of relationship we want to be in. There may be other commitments (both professional and personal) which may prevent one from being physically close to their love for some time. And so instead of complaining about this one should look at the bright side of this kind of relationship.

A long distance relationship makes you expressive verbally. You cannot touch and see each other, than words are the only ways to convey feelings.

A long distance relationship makes you emotionally strong and stable. You try to resolve problems on your own instead of just relying on your partner.

A long distance relationship brings out the actual depth of a relation. As now the bonding between two people is beyond physical desires. As it is rightly said, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

A long distance relationship makes you realize the importance of your love. When you miss your love in all little little things, you come to know how much they are an integral part of your life.

A long distance relationship gives you a chance to give time to people who are also important in your life like your friends.

Ofcourse there is nothing greater than being with your love all the time. But a long distance relationship increases the ecstasy of meeting your love. And for relief of every love bird there, don’t forget that in today’s time your love is just a phone call away or just a few hours of flight away :-).

Monday, May 25, 2009

Life is Precious



I came across this video in Youtube and it really touched my heart.


In today's fast and speedy world where everyone is running behind something or the other, we have somehow forgotten to live. In the tussles and struggles for things like money, fame, power and other worldly pleasures life has taken a back seat. When did it happen last time that you thanked God for giving you a beautiful life? We are never done complaining about little things without realizing that there is nothing better than a healthy and peaceful life of yours and your loved ones.


We get only one Life...cherish it...

Friday, May 8, 2009

Pain of Loneliness…

"As I close my eyes on this day

All I can see is black gloomy walls around me

Gone were those blooming flowers

Gone were those clear blue skies

Gone were those chirping birds

Gone were those smiling faces

I always felt that someone will be around all the time

But my dreams are shattered

Even my shadow has parted way!!"


P.S. - These kind of thoughts come to your mind when you are made to work on a Saturday :-(

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Euthanasia - Can Death Be An Answer

"He was lying there in the hospital room as silent as a grave. For her he was in a deep sleep for last 5 years. For doctors he was in coma and was showing no signs of coming out of it. She had felt misery when doctors referred to him as vegetable, living but static. But now she was getting used to this idea. She had became impassive waiting for him to get back to life talking to her, holding her, walking with her, feeling her, loving her. She could still feel fury in her mind when thinking of a drunkard bumping into his car and taking away not just his consciousness but also her life. The visits from relatives and friends were diminished now but she knew that everyone still sympathizes for her. Her heart was asking this question again and again – How long?"

This can happen to anyone, with anyone. And the question in the end is “How long”. Is it fair to end a life which doesn’t resemble living anyways?

I am talking about Euthanasia which (in Greek) means ‘well death’. It refers to the practice of ending a life in a painless manner. From the day when I first heard and understood the meaning of this word, I always pondered if this act is humane or brutal. Since it possesses the tints of both good and evil, it is always been into controversies.

If a person is suffering from endless pain, or if he is alive only on ventilators and ICU rooms then it sounds quite justifiable to set him free. This will not only cease his anguish but will also give a relief to his near and dear ones. This decision is tough for everyone but if thought logically (which is also tough), it does good to all. Frees the person from his/her pain, frees the relatives from the constant hopes and worries, frees many medical facilities which can be used on people who can be saved from traumatic lives and can live again.

On the other hand is it not immoral to take someone’s life when that person is not able to protect himself. Is it not like murder in cold blood? Atleast when the person is alive (by certain criteria and support equipments) the near and dear ones have the comfort of holding his/her hands, getting a feel of them. Is it fair to rob them from these feelings?

"She gazed inside the ICU room from the glass door. He was lying there covered in snow clad sheet and a mesh of wires running throughout his body. He still looked stunning. She knew that she loved him. She also had an urge to get loved. But she knew that it will never happen. Her heart was asking this question again and again – How long?"

P.S. – I am not trying to be judgmental on this. All these are my personal views and not intended to hurt anyone.

Monday, May 4, 2009

Friday Friendship

We meet many people in our day to day lives. They all leave footprints in our memories. Some footprints are like the ones made on sand, they get washed away with waves of time. But some are like carved in a stone, strong and forever. These people may not be around all the time but the memories of moments spent with them are sufficient to drive you through thicks and thins. This post of mine is dedicated to these people in my life.

When I think of such people I think of Friday friendship. The memories that I have of the time spend with these people is like old wine, it gets stronger and better with time. We formed this group in Hexaware and in the start it has four members (the proud founders of this great and nasty association) – Ujjwal, Rishi, Divya and Khushbu. A little history reveals that it started with Divya and Ujjwal planning to go for a movie on Christmas ‘05. Rishi met them on their way and joined them. This was the beginning of an era for us. Down the line it was joined by me, Khushbu, Navdeep and Atul. And this is how it got this name, we all were in different projects (me and Rishi were in same) and so Friday used to be the only time when we all could get together in eve and blow off some steam. And these evening encounters used to be legendary :-).

The beauty of this group was in the diversity of the people forming it. With Ujju as Neta, Rishi as Nautanki, Div as Rotlu, Khush as Abhi-neta, Atul as Happy go Lucky, Navdeep as Day Dreamer and Me as Always be Happy, things have to have happening, interesting and sometimes wayward, atrocious.

And so we bloomed in full glory with time spent in late night movie shows, munching at BTC, hanging around in KK, kulfi at dmart, bowling, gaming, shopping, finding reasons to take parties from each other, teasing, going for a movie in a theatre which is hours away from our place (remember Fanaa), spending eve in marine drive and coming back with someone losing her mobile phone (poor Khush) and finally resorting to blabbering which is our forte.

“What are the plans for the weekend” or “Which movie we are going tonight” or “When is your party” chain mails become part and parcel of our lives and permanent visitors of our mail boxes. Where in everyone is free to pour in any senseless thought and others reciprocating in the same way.

There had been several interesting incidents so far but there is one which still makes me laugh hard. This was when we realized Ujjwal’s aura. We all were going to some place (don’t remember) in the local train. We were sitting in one row and Ujjwal in row front of us. Since he was recently back from US, he was telling us some interesting stories. Then all of a sudden he realized and in fact we all realized that the guy sitting next to Ujjwal was looking at him with so much admiration, liking and love (I know Ujjwal is going to beat me for this) in his eyes. This made Ujjwal so conscious that for a second he forgot what he was saying. That guy’s expression along with Ujjwal’s left us in splits because of laughter. I wished I would have captured that moment.

Another legendary experience was the trip to Borivali national park. I don’t know who made that plan. If I knew that, I would have killed that person. It was one of the lazy hot Saturday mornings, when you were lying in your bed all curled up cozily and suddenly a phone call comes with a weird plan of going out in perching sun and scorching heat to a place which does not offer any excitement. But when it’s a group plan you got to do it. So we all dragged ourselves out of the bed and got ready in record time. After a quick meet at D Mart the route was decided. It was something like taking a train to VT, then taking a cab to Churchgate and then taking a train to Borivali. So we intelligent souls got the train tickets to Churchgate, it’s only that poor we didn’t realize that we are boarding a VT train and not a Churchgate train. That day was a pure lucky day for us, as in Mumbai several people travel in locals without a ticket and never get caught and we; instead of having (wrong) tickets got caught by the TT. Then started a long session of proving ourselves innocent and it did work and we could find a way out by bribing the TT. By that time we all had already turned frantic and were in no mood to proceed further. But few cold drinks, sandwiches and burgers brought the enthusiasm back and we finally reached the destination. And as it was a lucky day for us (I guess now you can sense the sarcasm) we saw some great animals including a donkey, dog, few birds and of course few couples (humans are also animals). Of course the day was long and many lucky things happened to us including not getting a bus on our way back. All in all it was a trip worth remembering.

I think I can go on and on remembering all the good times I spend with this group. We still do hang around together though some people are now little away, only by distance criteria. I love these people and they form an eternal part of me and my life. This is for Friday Friendship, this is for US.

Even though we've changed and we're all finding our own place in the world, we all know that when the tears fall or the smile spreads across our face, we'll come to each other because no matter where this crazy world takes us, nothing will ever change so much to the point where we're not all still friends.