How to beat Monday Blues

What is a Monday Blue? I don’t think this needs any answer. Everyone encounters it and that too very frequently, every week :-). Going to office on a Monday after a weekend is the same feeling that a kid gets when he has to leave the cosy lap of his mother and walk on his own. I have been one person whose Monday blues are so deep that it sometimes turns black. Well we cannot avoid Mondays but based on my experience, I have listed below some ways to lessen it.

· Don’t leave any work pending on Friday. Any unfinished work will haunt you over the weekend and will hover around your mind all Monday morning increasing your blues.

· Leave your desk neat and clean on Friday. A sight of a messed up workplace is definitely going to worsen your Monday pain.

· Well this may not be possible all the time but if you have something new to wear on Mondays the blues reduce drastically.

· For all booze lovers (this one is not based on my experience) try not to drink on Sunday night. The hangover is going to make your Mondays blues bad if not worse.

· If you are a food lover, carry your favourite dish in lunch or plan a lunch outing in advance.

· Sleep on time on Sunday night. Don’t party late.

· Wake up little early on Monday morning. Talk to one person you really want to talk to. Take a long luxurious shower; pamper yourself with a nice aroma.

· This may sound weird but I have really seen it working. If you have your love interest at your work place you really look forward to Mondays, Tuesdays, in fact all days of the week.

These are just little guides to fight the Monday monster. I have tried implementing some and they have worked a bit but I am still not completely over this syndrome. Do try these and let me know if they worked for you. Till then enjoy the blues :-).

I love you…I actually do

This one is for all the people who are in relationships and I am particularly talking about long distance relationships. So when the two love birds are separated by miles and miles, the only ways to keep in touch are phones, chat engines, emails and probably letters. I can understand the pain that comes when you are separated from your soul mate and so I am in no way trying to increase your pain here. In fact I will try to bring out the lighter side of it by mocking a typical conversation that happens between these love birds on a daily basis.

Boy: Hey honey…how are you?

Girl: Same question in every two hours. I am all good sweetheart.

Boy: You will be all good. It’s me who is running into huge cell phone bills. Great to hear that. How was your day?

Girl: All days are the same. I don’t know why this question comes again and again. Day was ok. Nothing much happened. You had your dinner?

Boy: This girl only thinks about food. Yes I had it. Now next question will be what I had? God! Save me.

Girl: What you had?

Boy: Hehe…I told you. I had aloo paratha.

Girl: That’s good. So tell me about your day. Ohhh God now I’ll have to bear with all the technical details of his work.

Boy: I had a tough day. Remember that module in which I was getting the ora error 0555….

Girl: Zzzzzzzzz

Boy: Finally it got resolved when I changed the calling sequence in the main module…

Girl: Zzzzzzzzz

Boy: You are getting me…right?

Girl: Yes of course. Please save me God.

Boy: Tell me about your day.

Girl: I had a great day. Remember the top that you had gifted me. I wore it today at work and got loads of compliment.

Boy: Girlszzzzzzzzzzzzzz…their day is good only when people compliment them. They seem to be a major reason of global recession. No work, only gossip. That’s great honey. You look fabulous in that one. Yeah I mean it.

Girl: I look good in it because you have gifted me that. Yeah I mean it. And as such I look good all the time.

Boy: I’ll have to doze off now sweetie. I have to get up early tomorrow. I really want to talk more though.

Girl: Sure baby. He didn’t talk anything romantic :(.

Boy: I love you. I actually do.

Girl: I love you too. I actually do.

And this is how it goes. I had tried to put it in a lighter way as my sole intention here is to generate some humor. If you can relate to it, well and good. If you can’t just enjoy the conversation.

Antics of moon

Moon is one of the astounding and mystifying nature’s creations. Have you ever looked at moon in its full glory and phases and felt the emotions that it incites in you. Someone has rightly said.

The moon develops the imagination, as chemicals develop photographic images.

Today I got late in office and while coming back in my company bus I could see the moon. It was a glorious full moon and the first thing that I did, was to sms some of my friends and ask them to see the wonderful aura of it. The variety of responses that I received made me wonder about the kind of emotional stir that moon causes in us.

I’ll start with my reaction when I saw it. I found it soothing and cute like the face of a baby who is all smiles to see her mother after a hard day in school. I found it serene like the smile of a young girl in love. I found it contented like the smile of an old lady who still has her life partner holding her hand.

One friend replied that he found it utterly romantic. This sight of moon makes him nostalgic. Even I do agree with him here. Moon does symbolise love. In fact it is beautifully described in these lines.

The feeling of love is the same feeling that you get when you stare into the moon on a clear night.

One friend replied that she found it very serious and poignant. The sight of moon made her miss her love a lot.

The moon's turned black; for I love him, and He didn't love back

One friend replied that he found it scary. The sight of full moon reminds him of all the frightening stories of lunatics and vampires. Weird I thought.

One friend replied furiously by saying people like you have no work but to find some bizarre meaning of pretty scientific things like a full moon. I can understand that, he must be having a bad day at work.

All these examples just prove that how different people get different impulses from the moon. Moon is truly marvellous. In fact few days back we all saw a moon smiley in the sky :). That was truly amazing. It was as if the moon is trying to give us a message to keep smiling in all thicks and thins.

I will conclude with these lovely lines.

The moon, like a flower
In heaven's high bower,
With silent delight
Sits and smiles on the night.

A woman’s perspective

What woman wants? Well that’s a difficult question as you all know. And I am in no way attempting to answer this here. Mostly guys wonder what will be the ways to win a woman. There have been many things written as a guide for that, a list of all do’s and don’ts. Well this is my version of it. This may stand true for most cases and may not for many others. You know women are so different. But yeah well this is at least my side of the story.

The first thing is intelligence. Yes woman are crazy for guys who are intelligent. So guys buckle up. If you have your facts and logic in place, women will be all around you.

The second thing is sophistication. Yes woman do get attracted to sexy velvet English or neutral accents and impeccable styles, dressing and behavior. So if you burp in public or do belching while eating or talk in a vernacular accent or smell like shit or wear crumpled clothing or have unkempt hair, then I am sorry to say you have a long way to go to find a woman.

The third thing is confidence. This can really help to sweep her off her feet. So approach a woman with your chin up, shoulders straight, poised posture, mature voice and I bet she will be all yours. And if you are fumbling, stammering or wavering then my friend better luck next time.

The fourth thing is give attention to her. So if she is looking pretty then don’t hesitate in giving a genuine compliment. But please don’t resort to fake appreciations as all women may not be so dumb to understand it.

Well I guess at this point you might be thinking that I am talking about all external or physical factors. Actually these factors are important to at least get into proximity of a woman. If you don’t have them, believe me how good you are as a person, it will be difficult for you to make her yours. But to make a woman fall in love with you, you need much more then these external/physical things. Let’s try and explore that.

You should be caring. Yes if you love her it should show in the way you care for her. By caring it doesn’t mean that you are hovering around her all the time. It means that your woman feels that if anything goes wrong you will be there to protect her. If she is trapped in some problem you will be there to rescue her. It’s not necessary that you are there in her good times but you should be/must be there in her bad times.

You should not try to change her. Yes this is a big no no. Woman of today knows what is right and what is wrong. So don’t try to judge her doings. She may find it as an intrusion to her personality. But that doesn’t mean that you don’t correct her if she is on a wrong side. Talk to her, explain your view point and try to bring out the problems with her actions but always leave the final decision to her. Doing this will make her realize that she was wrong. And she will be thankful to you in guiding her but not commanding her.

I would stop here. I won’t again say the things like you should understand her and above all love her with all you have. Anyways if you have chosen a woman to be your companion for the rest of you life, loving her will come naturally.

P.S. – Not all women may have the same perspective as mine. So observe her carefully first and then only try all these. And I don’t take any guarantee for any of the things suggested above if tried on any other women apart from me :-).

Don't Mix Drinking And Driving

I came across this lovely poem somewhere so just felt like sharing it with all of you...its a long one but please read it fully and feel the message it conveys


I went to a party Mom,

I remembered what you said.

You told me not to drink, Mom,

So I drank soda instead.


I really felt proud inside, Mom,

The way you said I would.

I didn't drink and drive, Mom,

Even though the others said I should.


I know I did the right thing, Mom,

I know you are always right.

Now the party is finally ending, Mom,

As everyone is driving out of sight


As I got into my car, Mom,

I knew I'd get home in one piece.

Because of the way you raised me,

So responsible and sweet


I started to drive away, Mom,

But as I pulled out into the road,

The other car didn't see me, Mom,

And hit me like a load...


As I lay there on the pavement, Mom,

I hear the policeman say,

"The other guy is drunk," Mom,

And now I'm the one who will pay.


I'm lying here dying, Mom....

I wish you'd get here soon.

How could this happen to me, Mom?

My life just burst like a balloon.


There is blood all around me, Mom,

And most of it is mine.

I hear the medic say, Mom,

I'll die in a short time.


I just wanted to tell you, Mom,

I swear I didn't drink.

It was the others, Mom.

The others didn't think.


He was probably at the same party as I.

The only difference is, he drank

And I will die.


Why do people drink, Mom?

It can ruin your whole life.

I'm feeling sharp pains now.

Pains just like a knife.


The guy who hit me is walking, Mom,

And I don't think it's fair.

I'm lying here dying

And all he can do is staring.


Tell my brother not to cry, Mom.

Tell Daddy to be brave.

And when I go to heaven, Mom,

Put "GOOD BOY" on my grave.


Someone should have told him, Mom,

Not to drink and drive.

If only they had told him, Mom,

I would still be alive.


My breath is getting shorter, Mom.

I'm becoming very scared.

Please don't cry for me, Mom.

When I needed you, you were always there.


I have one last question, Mom.

Before I say good bye,

I didn't drink and drive,

So why am I the one to die?

Baanwra mann dekhne chala ek sapna

Sometimes it just feels like breaking ties from the daily routine, work, people, problems, troubles, everything and spend time the way your hearts want to. I know this sounds like a far cry in today’s fast moving mechanical and concrete world. But believe me the more this mechanical world is encompassing us the more the child inside us is craving to do something out of our very strict defined boundaries.

Most of the times I am so preoccupied in the daily chores, that this child in me has no options but to sob silently in the hope that someday I’ll notice. Yesterday I had some free time in office and so I got a chance to do a rendezvous with the child inside me and then I got to know the weirdest things the child inside me wanted to do.

The first thing is to take a break from work and go to a long holiday. This is not weird though. Mostly people want to go to flashy and fancy places like Paris, Singapore, Vegas etc. And most of the times I am also in that category. But this child in me wants to go to a place close to nature, quiet and lonely. A place where I’ll get a chance to discover myself. A place where I won’t have to think about any problem, personal or professional. A place where no one will be watching me. A place where no one will be questioning me. A place where there is no right or wrong, practical or emotional. A place where I can be just me. A place surrounded by high mountains or deep blue oceans. A place where I can unveil myself, where I can lie naked on white sand or green grass without bothering about people’s stare. A place which will make me feel that heaven is a place on earth.

The second thing is to fall in love. Yes this is weird. I mean falling in love is not something that you would want, it just happens. But the child in me wants me to fall in love. I have always resisted this by saying single by choice. And most of the times I meant it. But I do feel the need of a person in my life who will always be there with me. Who will accept me as I am without being judgemental on my doings. Who will love me for reasons beyond reason. Who will stand by me against all odds. Who will made me believe again that love is so serene and beautiful.

The third thing is to do something breadth taking and adventurous. I have been a not so adventurous person always. And so the child in me wants me to break this shell and explore the wildest possibilities this world has to offer. A point where you can experience how death will feel like without actually dying. Bungee jumping, ice climbing, scuba diving, skydiving, rafting in turbulent rivers, wildlife safaris would be the few ones that I would like to try. I am not very sure how physically toned I am to try all this but I would definitely like to do these once in my lifetime.

The fourth thing is to spend a day of my life like a princess. To spend a day as if there is no tomorrow. A day when things will happen the way I want. A day when I can go to places I only dream of going or at least I cannot afford to go to such places frequently. A day when I can meet people whom I have always admired, but was never been lucky to meet them. A day when I can buy things without looking at how much they cost. A day when everyone will losok at me and say that I want to be like her. This dream of mine exposes a more materialistic side of me. But I believe everyone has this shade in their personalities but most people are not very comfortable in bringing it out.

The fifth thing is to learn how to play a synthesizer. Well this is not something which is unrealistic or weird and I cannot do it. It’s just that I did not do it yet and so the child in me is getting restless.

Well it was a one small day and so unfortunately I had to bring this rendezvous to an end. But it was nice talking to my own self and to know the things that something inside me craves for.
I would like to conclude with the beautiful lyrics of a lovely song...

Baavra mann dekhne chala ek sapna

Baavre se mann ki dekho
Baavri hain baatein
Baavri si dhadkanein hain
Baavri hain saansein
Baavri si karvaton se nindiya tu bhaage
Baavre se nain chaahein
Baavre jharokhon se
Baavre nazaaron ko takna

Baavra mann dekhne chala ek sapna

Why do people fall in love…

Why do people fall in love…to some it may sound a stupid question, to some it may not even sound like a question. You love someone that’s it; there is nothing to reason in that. To some it may be as logical a question as why earth is round. Let me think which category do I fit in, frankly till recently I was in a logical group who believes that everything has a reason and can be brought down to equations where we know what is x, y and why x+y=z. Well if I sound encrypted here I am just trying to emphasize that till recently I have been a very logical person. Of course if “till recently” is catching your eye a lot, please stand by me for some more time and you will get to know.

So back to my question – why do people fall in love? The answer will be different for different people. For a five year old it’s just finding a person who will share his jolly rancher candy with him or will still give you a warm hug when you are all drenched in mud. Is this love? It might be for those 5 year olds but can’t say if we logical league of people will consider it as love.
Well then before answering why do people fall in love lets answer what is love. Well instead of putting some famous personality quote here, let me try defining it in my own way.

Love is what makes you feel good about yourself.
Love is what gives meaning to your existence.
Love is what makes world around you beautiful.
Love is like a poetry written by your own heart.
Love is like a song which you hear every time you think of that special someone.
Love is what makes you smile without a reason.
Love is what makes you complete.

Wow love is so beautiful. And so falling in love should be equally beautiful. And that’s the reason people fall in love. I would have loved to stop with this pleasing thought. But I can see people around me who are not so happy in love which makes me ponder again over my original question.

I have a friend of mine who is suffering a great deal in her love life. I was talking to her the other day trying to pacify her pain. After two years of strong and bound relationship she and her boyfriend are still wondering if they have chosen the right person. Now what went wrong here…what happened to all those lovely things that I talked about love just now? Didn’t they realize before falling that they are not meant to be together? It sometimes happens in life that you are in need of a person who can be with you, hold you and support you. This need often brings two souls close to each other. And finding such a person is so overwhelming and delightful that you are temporarily blinded by heat and shine of your new relationship. And when your eyes do open up after sometime you get a feel that this relationship was not the one you always desired for. There can be many reasons for such a feel and I don’t want to limit them by writing just few of them here.

This was the logical side of me. And I have been logical in most part of my life and believe me I do missed being loved. Love is beautiful, divine and serene. The way we don’t reason the existence of God, we should not reason the existence of love. We sometimes meet people in life who instantly make us feel that they are the ones for us. One should never let these people go.

Falling is love is like living a lifetime. One should not stop living just because one day death is a reality. Same way one should not stop loving just because you may not know where it will take you.

Love is beyond reasons…